This past week or so, I ended up having 4 dates in 8 days, each with a different girl. My friends think I'm either lucky, paying for it, or a man-whore. Truth is, this is just an odd occurrence of timing. This is weeks of messages, emails and texts coming to fruition over one short, glorious period of time. This was hard work.
It was actually supposed to be five dates. I was supposed to have coffee with someone today. I begged off. I'm fucking exausted. I sent out a message to a PD about a week ago. The person read it, then just let it sit there. I assumed she was just waiting to delete her unwanted advances en masse. Yesterday, I got a note from her saying, "I'm free for coffee at ___, does that work for you?"
I never want to refuse, but you know what? It's hard being "up" all the time. Putting your best foot forward is one thing, but walking on eggshells for 4 out of 8 nights? I'd rather run a marathon. In a Batman Suit. In Phoenix. In July. You get the idea.
Don't get me wrong... these dates get to see the real me by the end of the night. I just find it's better to ease into it. On the plus side, at least I ease into it in one night rather than over many years. Doing it slowly like that is just plain wrong.
We've all seen a relationship where one party or the other (or sometimes both) slowly changes into someone the other person does not like. If they do it gradually enough, they can get away with it. It's like cooking a frog. If the frog starts off in the pot of lukewarm water that's slowly heating up, he won't realize he's boiling (or that he tastes like chicken) until it's too late. Dump the frog into an already-boiling pot, and he'll do everything he can to fight his way out. Same principle.
Sorry- went off on a tangent there. I think instead of being "on" tonight, I'm going to go sit a poker table in a casino somewhere. I can put on sunglasses, throw on my iPod, and think about nothing but playing cards for hours and hours. The only thing I want to be "up" tonight is my chip stack.
and, I refer you to my post about job interviews and first dates.
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